Do I need to bring a partner to attend this retreat?

No, you don't need a partner. Our Pai retreat welcomes both couples and singles. The mixed format creates rich learning opportunities as individuals can observe couple dynamics and couples can learn from individual perspectives on relationship patterns.

What is included in the retreat pricing?

The retreat fee includes all transformational sessions, authentic relating practices, narrative intelligence work, real-time feedback and support, integration guidance, and a clarity call to ensure the retreat is right for you. Accommodation and meals are not included but we can provide recommendations for local options in Pai.

Is this retreat suitable for people-pleasers?

Yes, this retreat is specifically designed for people tired of people-pleasing patterns. We address the root stories that keep you walking on eggshells and teach you to express your truth clearly and kindly. You'll practice new ways of being with real-time feedback in a safe, supportive environment.

What makes this different from other relationship retreats?

Our retreat combines narrative intelligence with authentic relating practices in the unique setting of Pai, Thailand. Unlike theory-based workshops, you'll practice each skill in real-time with immediate feedback. The mixed format of couples and singles creates diverse learning opportunities you won't find elsewhere.

How do I know if this retreat is right for me?

Every participant has a clarity call with Yaniv before the retreat to ensure it's the right fit. If it's not suitable for your current needs, we'll recommend other resources that might serve you better. This ensures everyone who attends is ready for the transformational work.

Why is the retreat located in Pai, Thailand?

Pai provides a transformative environment away from daily distractions where deep relational work can happen. The natural beauty and peaceful setting support the vulnerable process of examining and transforming relationship patterns. Plus, the location offers a unique cultural context for exploring authentic expression.

What is narrative intelligence and how does it help with relationships?

Narrative intelligence helps you recognize the unconscious stories that drive your relationship patterns. By becoming aware of these limiting narratives - like 'I must please everyone to be loved' - you can choose new, more authentic ways of relating that lead to deeper connection rather than disconnection.

From Walking on Eggshells To Standing In Your Truth

Does This Sound Like Your Relationship Story?

You avoid conflict because you're terrified it means losing love

You say "yes" when you mean "no" and wonder why you feel resentful

People withdraw when you try to address issues, so you've learned to stay quiet

You give and give until you're empty, then wonder why they seem to take you for granted

"I'm exhausted from trying to make everyone happy, but I'm terrified if I stop, they'll leave."

Dan, Workshop Participant

You're Not Broken. You're Using Strategies That No Longer Serve You.

You learned to people-please for good reasons - it kept you safe when you were younger. But now these patterns are pushing away the very love you're trying to protect.

Your truth is the path back to yourself, to deeper connection, and to being on the same team

"I witness how conflict is not an end and can lead to deep connection, compassion and understanding."

Xavier, Retreat Participant

The 4-Day Journey from Fear to Freedom

Face Your Pattern

Discover exactly why conflict feels dangerous and when you first learned to avoid it.

Practice New Responses

Learn to stay present and express truth during emotional intensity in our safe container.

Embody Your Voice

Transform from someone who avoids their truth to someone who speaks it with confidence.

Take It Home

Master real-world applications so these changes last in your actual relationships.

Book Your Free 15-Minute Clarity Call

Glimpses from Past Retreats

See the transformation, connection, and joy that happens when people find their authentic voice

"The most beautiful thing was witnessing everyone's journey from fear to courage, including my own."

Sarah, December 2024 Retreat

From Exhuasted To Empowered

Immediate Results

"I've already been able to express 'no' to a few people since last night. Feels so good to put myself first sometimes and let the 'people pleaser' have a rest!"

Matthew, Retreat Participant

Conflict Mastery

"I had the chance to practice and learn new frames to go from conflict to connection. I witness how conflict is not an end and can lead to deep connection, compassion and understanding."

Xavier, Retreat Participant

Self-Connection

"Thank you Yaniv for guiding me to a place of greater self trust and love through the deep work of understanding and integrating different parts of myself."

Andrea, Retreat Participant

Meet Yaniv: From People-Pleaser to Authenticity Ninja

I know what it's like to swallow your words and wonder if anyone would love the real you. As a neurodivergent, queer person who grew up people-pleasing for survival, I spent years believing that conflict meant losing love.

Now I help exhausted people-pleasers discover that authenticity attracts love, not abandonment.

Certified Authentic Relating Facilitator (7+ years)

Relationship pattern specialist

Based in Pai, Thailand

Creator of safe spaces for risky conversations

"It is, without a doubt, one of the best workshops I've ever taken (and that's speaking from over 40 years worth of professional, personal, and spiritual workshops)"

Marianne R.

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What You'll Actually Learn to Do

Stop Walking on Eggshells

You'll get specific scripts for expressing difficult feelings without your partner shutting down or getting defensive. No more rehearsing conversations in your head for weeks because you're terrified of their reaction.

Stay Calm When They Get Defensive

You'll learn to stay grounded when they start raising their voice, stonewalling, or giving you the silent treatment. Instead of immediately apologizing or taking everything back, you'll work through it together.

Address Issues Before You Explode

You'll catch yourself building resentment early and know exactly how to bring up small issues before they become relationship-ending fights. No more smiling while dying inside until you finally lose it over something tiny.

Be Loved for Who You Actually Are

You'll experience what it feels like to be completely authentic and have someone move closer instead of pulling away. You'll discover that the person you've been hiding is actually more attractive than the 'perfect' version you've been performing.

These aren't theoretical concepts. You'll practice each skill in real-time with feedback and support, so you leave with actual experience, not just knowledge.

Here's How to Join

Book Your Free Clarity Call

We'll spend 15 minutes discussing your relationship goals and whether this retreat is right for you. No pressure, no sales pitch - just an honest conversation about what you need.

If It's a Good Fit, Secure Your Spot

We'll send you a secure payment link to reserve your space. Simple, straightforward, and completely secure.

Get Your Pai Travel Guide

We'll send you everything you need: accommodation recommendations, travel instructions from Chiang Mai, what to pack, and how to prepare emotionally for the experience.

The clarity call helps us both make sure this retreat will give you what you need. If it's not the right fit, we'll recommend other resources that might serve you better.

Book Your Free 15-Minute Clarity Call

Everything You Need to Know

Logistics

How do I secure my spot?

Book a free 15-minute clarity call where we'll discuss your goals, answer questions, and determine if this retreat is right for you. If it's a good fit, we'll send you a secure payment link to reserve your space with a deposit.

What about accommodation in Pai?

We'll provide a detailed list of recommended guesthouses, hostels, and hotels at various price points. Pai has options from budget backpacker places ($10-15/night) to luxury resorts ($100+/night). We'll help you find something that fits your budget and comfort preferences.

How do I get to Pai?

Fly into Chiang Mai (CNX), then take a 3-hour bus ($3) or private transport ($40-60) to Pai. We'll provide detailed travel instructions and can help arrange shared transportation with other participants to split costs.

Safety & Emotional

What if I'm too scared to do this?

That fear is exactly why you need this. We go at a pace your nervous system can handle. You'll never be pushed beyond what feels safe, and you always have permission to step back when needed.

What if I get triggered and can't handle it?

Our entire approach is designed for sensitive nervous systems. We have multiple support systems in place, including one-on-one check-ins and quiet spaces to decompress when needed. We welcome triggers as they are thresholds to deeper connection.

Relationships

What if my partner thinks this is selfish?

Learning to speak your truth actually improves relationships. Many participants find their partners appreciate the more authentic, confident person they become. The skills you learn benefit everyone in your life.

Can I come alone even if I'm in a relationship?

Yes! Many participants come solo. The skills you learn will improve your relationship even if your partner doesn't attend. Some find their partner becomes more interested in growth work after seeing the positive changes.

Inclusion

Do you work with LGBTQ+ and non-traditional relationships?

Absolutely. All relationship styles, orientations, and structures are welcome. People-pleasing affects everyone, and these skills work regardless of who you're in relationship with.

What if I'm single?

These skills work in all relationships - dating, friendships, family, and work. Many single participants use the retreat to break patterns before entering their next relationship.

Practical

What's the refund policy?

Full refund up to 30 days before the retreat. Between 30-14 days: 50% refund. Less than 14 days: no refund but you can transfer to a future retreat.

Is this therapy?

No, this is experiential learning focused on communication skills and relationship patterns. If you're dealing with trauma or mental health concerns, we recommend discussing this work with your therapist first.